Family Feud: Why Your Kids Can’t Decide Who Gets What

Here’s the truth: not having a clear estate plan is setting your kids up for conflict. When you leave them to decide who gets what, you’re really leaving behind confusion, resentment, and stress. Even families who get along well can find themselves at odds when emotions are high and money or sentimental items are involved.

Here’s what happens when you don’t decide:

Arguments over assets: From jewelry to houses, every item can become a battlefield. Without clear instructions, even small possessions can take on huge emotional weight, leading to disagreements that could have been avoided.

Legal headaches: Without direction, families may end up in probate court — a long, expensive, and public process that delays access to what you intended for them. The more time and money spent on legal proceedings, the less there is for your loved ones.

Broken relationships: Sibling rivalries that start over “stuff” can last for years — or forever. It’s heartbreaking to see families divided over misunderstandings that a simple will or trust could have prevented.

The lesson: Your estate plan isn’t just about money. It’s about protecting your family’s unity and peace. By clearly stating your wishes in a will or trust, you give your children the gift of clarity, so they can focus on grieving and healing, not fighting. Estate planning also gives you control over special items — like heirlooms, property, or businesses — so they go exactly where you want, not where a judge thinks they should.

Bonus peace of mind: A solid estate plan can also cover more than inheritance — it can include guardianship for minors, medical directives, and powers of attorney, ensuring that your wishes are honored in every situation.

Take action now: Don’t leave your kids to “figure it out.” Create a clear estate plan today and make sure your legacy is remembered for love, not conflict. Give us a call today at (202) 967-4571 to get started.